Many people feel that if they use adult toys or watch adult content together as a couple that there is something wrong. There must be trouble in the bedroom department, but nothing could be further from the truth. Have you been thinking about how to add a level of erotic sensuality into your relationship? Do you want to introduce toys and adult content to experience together, but you feel that the subject is a little taboo. How do you bring this up with your partner? Do you already know that your partner has fixed ideas or insecurities? Do they think you only introduce toys or watch adult content because you are bored or unhappy? How do you break through those misconceptions? We are in an age when sex toys and content is much more mainstream, it’s much easier to broach the subject than ever before.
Sexy Adult Content
Adult content and adult toys are now much more mainstream. Adult content is very different today. The adult movie industry today has many female directors and films that are not just aimed at men and degrading women, but specifically for women. The new wave of adult content is for both men and women, showing them as equal participants and the woman as no longer an object just to gratify men. So there really is something for everyone. Sex toys and content do not live in the shadows any more. They can be a healthy part of happy consensual relationship.
Communication for better sex
Good sex, requires us to communicate with each other. Its about practice as well as theory. If you understand the mechanics of what should work but you can’t communicate and release the shame you will never fulfill your wildest desires. If you want to help guide your partner to reach sex toy and sexy content enlightenment, it’s going to take a bit of reassurance, and a lot of education. The great news is that it’s going to be a very sexy and a lot of fun getting there.
Some people feel that the addition of sex toys and watching adult content means your partner is boring or has a lack of skills. Why don’t you educate them otherwise.
First step: Appease your partner’s ego. Let your lover know, how great they are between the sheets. Don’t be afraid to give them specific examples of how much they drive you wild. Who doesn’t love compliments!
Step 2: Once your partner feels good and confident about their bedroom skills, it’s time to talk about toys and adult content. They are an addition to what you do in bedroom, not a distraction or replacement. Make sure you tell your partner how you want to use toys and watch content together, they are not a replacement for the things your partner does to you in bed. Make sure you explain that you want to use the toys with your partner, not instead of them. They will be a sexy, fun and pleasurable addition to your bedroom life. Keeping a mix of sexy bedside toys and content to watch to together is not a sign of boredom. Quite the opposite, it’s a tried-and-true way to ensure a healthy amount of variety for you both of you.
The real fun
The real fun starts with the research and the shopping for your toys and sexy adult content. This can be an extremely erotic activityfor you both, so make sure you set aside time to peruse and have some fun while you are doing it. Take the time to discuss it, understand what gets each of you hot and heavy and is a major turn on. Give into it and let both your imaginations run wild, visualize what you will do together before you decide what you would like to try first.